Raising a child ....

raising a child ... building a house ... nursing a dream ... all to make it a reality ...

And you have a nightmare ...
The child falls .. the house collapses ... the dream is shattered ... slowly yet steadily .....knocking the wind out of you

The worst of all is that you do not have enouh strength to stop the falling ... its there its inadverent ..

What does one think ... try and stop it ... or look ahead in life ....
is there anything to stop or ois it already shattered ...

does looking ahead mean giving up .. or a clever compromise

i see the doom as a give up ... the doom which will create havoc and will destroy the house .......................

Questions about love ...

What is love ....????????

Is it lust ? Or more appropriately ... is it just lust?

Can there be love without lust and lust without love ?

Does love mean a long term committment ? Or just a friend who you think is more than a friend?

Is the feeling of being in love more important than the feeling of love itself ?

Can love be manufactured ... can it be created ...
If not then how do arrange marriages survive ?

And if yes ... why cant we love the person we like ... the person we would like to love ...?

Can love overcome ego ... is it good to actually overcome ego ... the feeling of self ...
Does it mean .. the dissolution of the self and the thoughts
or on the other hand
does it mean a union of 2 thoughts

is it UNDERSTANDING or COMPROMISE?

what happens when expectations are not fulfilled ... who is at fault ... the one having higher expectations or the one not fulfilling them

are girls really more romantic in a relationship ... and are guys really more physical ?

why do u need to love ... for sex ... or for company ....
company is the obvious answer ... yes but is that really true ...
then why love 1 person for a lifetime ....
chage partners .. get diff company and diff sex ..

how does marriage change things ??.... why does the roseiness of a relationship reduce after gettin married ...

is love a committment or a bond ?
is love shackles of confinement or a belt of security ?
is loving less imporatant than being loved ?
is love transitional or permanent ?

does love mean keeping the other person happy or keeping youseld happy ...THE ANSWER IS NOT BOTH

Can you forget a love ?
Can you grow out of your love ?
And if you forget or grow out ... then was it love or lust ?


these are some questions you must have answers for if u think you are in love ...
and if u feel u r falling in love ... then try and ans them urself ...
Best of luck ... cheers
also in case u get some wisdom please do share it with me ...

Enough of the USA

as nearly 2 and a half months of my stay in the us end ... what is my reaction ...

enough of the us ... bas yaar bahut ho gaya

ab to mein bore ho gaya ....have had enough of the usa ....enough materialism .. enough sightseeing ... enough ac ....enough french fries ... enough deep neck tops .. enough bare legs ... though i can still take more of the last 2 things ...[;)]

the mad rat race here in the usa .. polite people .. yes .. good morning .. good evening ... have a good day ... how are u doing today ...

yes all this is there ...makes u feel gud ... that people are polite and helpful ... but only to an extent .. after that it is all .. help your self ...

highly materialistic ... highly busy ..u mail a person sitting right next to you .. instead of talking ..

well that is the usa ...

what do i miss here .. living wid my mama's family was definetely gud ... mama mami 2 cute cousins ..but i still miss my family .. boley to gharwaaley [;)]

i miss indian food .. the shahi paneer .. moms kofta ... moms dosa .. all that eating out at kl(iit hostel cafe)..... family lunch of chilli paneer and zeera aloo at sip n bite ... mezaban ka chilli potato ... and wot not

i miss the feel of india .. yes hot , dirty ... but yes that was India ...

comin back soon ... its 12 days to HOME SWEET HOME

A good job

the best question ..... for all those of us in college ... and those not in college ...

WHAT EXACTLY IS A GOOD JOB ???

first of all the inspiraton for this post .... i went to orlando, florida this weekend .... i stayed over at a friend from iit ... mayank ... who btw cooks excellent poha ... he'll have a lucky wife ...
now where does he stay .. with another indian ... who is doin a job there in the us ... nicknamed dadu ... very sweet and helpful .. he drove 30 miles just to pick up us ...

anyways comin back to the point ....excuse my diverging nature ...

what sparked this conversation ... we were a group of 4 friends me , mayank, shahsank , and ankit all comin back from disneyworld ....in a high spirit ....after a great day at the parks ...

all happy in the USA ... with their interns though ... not the country as such ... all except one ...

who had fallen in love with the country also ...

that is wot started the discussion ... 3 of us agreed that foreign countries are a great place to vacation ... but the 3 of us wanted to work and settle in India ..

that is when one friend said that he had decided to work and settle in the states ...
quite obviously we asked him why ?????

his ans was quite staright and simple

I WANT A GOOD JOB

our obvious response was that u get good jobs in india also ... and u have mnc's and everything ... though on a lighter vein u dont have strip clubs and topless beaches ...

lol ... btw i went to south beach miami .. which is topless...


anyways comin back to the point

his ans was the best job is one which gives the maximum money ....
IS MONEY EVERYTHING ???????

his ans was yes ...
we tried expalining him ... but i guess he was in a very immature state ... one in which i was abt 4 yrs ago ... when i had the notion that money is everything ..

but ive matured .... my mom was very thankful for that ...

money isnt everything ... peace of mind , happiness , satisfaction and time ..... are things that money can not buy ....

and these are things widout which there wuld be no life ...

i hope he realizes this before its too late ... else its a mad rat race