What is love ....????????
Is it lust ? Or more appropriately ... is it just lust?
Can there be love without lust and lust without love ?
Does love mean a long term committment ? Or just a friend who you think is more than a friend?
Is the feeling of being in love more important than the feeling of love itself ?
Can love be manufactured ... can it be created ...
If not then how do arrange marriages survive ?
And if yes ... why cant we love the person we like ... the person we would like to love ...?
Can love overcome ego ... is it good to actually overcome ego ... the feeling of self ...
Does it mean .. the dissolution of the self and the thoughts
or on the other hand
does it mean a union of 2 thoughts
is it UNDERSTANDING or COMPROMISE?
what happens when expectations are not fulfilled ... who is at fault ... the one having higher expectations or the one not fulfilling them
are girls really more romantic in a relationship ... and are guys really more physical ?
why do u need to love ... for sex ... or for company ....
company is the obvious answer ... yes but is that really true ...
then why love 1 person for a lifetime ....
chage partners .. get diff company and diff sex ..
how does marriage change things ??.... why does the roseiness of a relationship reduce after gettin married ...
is love a committment or a bond ?
is love shackles of confinement or a belt of security ?
is loving less imporatant than being loved ?
is love transitional or permanent ?
does love mean keeping the other person happy or keeping youseld happy ...THE ANSWER IS NOT BOTH
Can you forget a love ?
Can you grow out of your love ?
And if you forget or grow out ... then was it love or lust ?
these are some questions you must have answers for if u think you are in love ...
and if u feel u r falling in love ... then try and ans them urself ...
Best of luck ... cheers
also in case u get some wisdom please do share it with me ...
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wow. this is a very uncomfortable topic. one that i have avoided talking about in my blog, at all costs! but since you have stirred a hornet's nest, i don't think a simple comment will suffice. i'll make a whole "opinion" of it, and post it on my blog. and i'll credit you for bringing it up, no sweat!
ReplyDeletebut whoa, abhimanyu...you never fail to surprize me!
lol .... see i told u it will take time
ReplyDeletewaise isme surprise waali kya baat hai
thousand odd questions..and answers..to each his own...wd be good if u discuss them out honestly with ur gf. and watch the answers change with time too :)
ReplyDeleteTalking helps, though. And mostly, the answer wd be...neither...in the middle..or both.
@scooby-- kindly check how "surpriZe" is actually spelled.
ReplyDeletethe questions you have raised have answers that are as different as the individual who answers them. would you then suggest that the closest "ultimate answer" would be the one that got you a consensus?
:)
@phoenix
ReplyDeleteeven if the answer is both ... there has to be a priority between the two ...
@ ko
i wouldnt very well agree that the answers to the questions are individualistic ...
also the
beauty of these questions is there is no closest 'ultimate answer'...
its like asking for the ultimate truth of life
The only purpose of these questions is to spark speculation and discussion ..
wat do u mean by manufacturing luv...n one more thing...do u think that u can get a feeling of luv without being in luv!!!! n how can u giv priority out of these two...
ReplyDeletei came across the mention of this entry on sidey balloon. but i love ur honesty and straight approach. these issues are really important, at least to identify whether or not u r in love. again, i dunno how old are you, whether u have succeeded or failed or never fallen in love, but they certainly are a good guideline to follow or can be used as a reality check sheet! these are my responses to the questions you asked and are also posted on sidey-balloon.if possible lemme know what you think dude!
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? Is it lust?
no definitely not. love is the situation i think when it is impossible to think anything sexual bout that person (this happened in my case, i was never able to think more than holding hands or just hugging her)
Does love mean a long-term commitment?
no, its more like a commitment to look out for that person irrespective of whether the feelings you have are reciprocated or not!
Can love be manufactured? Can it be created?
dun think so, but arranged marriages are good examples of ppl leaving the thought of true love to be happy in life. I think it is more difficult to convince oneself that they are not in love its just a crush.
Why cant we love the person we like ... the person we would like to love ...?
maybe u like the person just as a friend and nothing else. ppl fell in love with the most unexpected ppl.
Can love overcome ego? Is it good to actually overcome the feeling of self? Does it mean the dissolution of the self and the thoughts or on the other hand does it mean a union of 2 thoughts?
yes it does!!! i have embarrassed myself countless times in front of my friends, who have been telling me to get over her for like ages! so love makes you have low esteem i guess.
Are girls really more romantic in a relationship ... and are guys really more physical?
hmmm, difficult to say. its been 3.5 yrs for me and still am getting over her. i know a guy who has been getting over a girl for over 8 years. so its won't be fair to say girls are more romantic always!
How does marriage change things?.... Why does the rosiness of a relationship reduce after getting married?
dunno bout that!
Does love mean keeping the other person happy or keeping yourself happy?
has to be the other person being happy, irrespective of whether he/she loves you back or not.
an you forget a love ? Can you grow out of your love ? And if you forget or grow out ... then was it love in the first place?
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!
truly nasty, not pretty at all, makes ppl do terrible things, have smoked my lungs out in trying to forget, am still doing that, trying atleast. but i doubt i wud ever be able to.
though this song called Sabka Katega by BodhiTree helps me forget those things, hope you also know this song, it is amazing!
teri yaadon mein kal ki rain bitayi thi
meri aankhon mein fir se aas bhar aayi thi
shakhon se phool toote rahon mein jiske
dil dooba num hua pyaar mein uske
pyaar ghate na yaad badhe yeh yaad badhe har saans
pyaas mein teri jaane kitne kaat chuka main jaam
dekho sabka katega
sabka katega raam yuhin kat ta rahega
sabka katega rammmm
ummmm..... at this point of my life i have come to beleive that what we term "the feeling of being in love" is just a con pulled on us by poets , bollywood and the likes.
ReplyDeletebut you can't deny the "feeling" can you .... well.... i just think thats attraction that wanes with time.
it seems logical to me that marriages , relationships are just convenient arrangements to make our lives seem simpler.
@ nothing
ReplyDeleteUr last statement is very easy to write .. but VERY VERY disturbing when you think about it ..
i know it is........ but whats more disturbing is that i , personally , havent seen relationships that refute it . not a single one!
ReplyDelete@nothing
ReplyDeleteLife's not so bad .. i hope u r in a gud 1 :)
oh yah!
ReplyDeletei have a beautiful life!!!!
and thats coz i dont have 2 deal vid any bdy els's "khich khich pich pich "
:P :D :)
ooo.. difficult one..
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