what i write now esentially is an introspection into our relationship ...here our refers to ppl of my age group .. with the older generation ... more specifically grandparents
so first the prologue ... why this post
i dont know abt others .. but atleast i feel it is so difficult to stay wid ones grandparents .... and here when i say stay .. i mean for a longer durationof time ...
this question also is linked with a more traditional question of indian society ... joint family or nuclear family
given the prologue .. now the case
we've all seen and sympathised in so many hindi movies when a young couple wants to move out of the family home and the parents are pained ...
we all think that we'll never abandon r parents at any stage in life ..
we also think that we'll take gr8 care of them ...
but in reality ... lets see the situation wid r grandpaents ...
there are times when u critcisize ur parents for actions towads ur garndparents ... hope im not being confusin ....
they r times when u wish that ur grandparents were'nt there at taht particular moment and they wouldnt spoil ur programme ...
this can be seen in the lite of a smaal event like just eatin out ... where usually grand parents dont wanna eat out
its a big issue indeed ... and one of the greatest weaknesses of old age is i guess that old ppl become rigid
RIGIDITY IN ANY SPHERE OF LIFE ANY TIME EVEN IF SUPPORTED BY VALID LOGIC IS THE GREATEST WEAKNESS A PERSON CAN HAVE ....
this is one great truth i have learnt in the past few dayz ... even if u r right yet u r rigid .... u r the looser in the long run ...
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ha! finally, i have some points to make.
ReplyDelete1. rigidity supported by valid logic is not rigidity at all. it's an opinion. it should be respected for that, more so, because petulent teenagers often throw tantrums without being able to countercat valid points.
2. that said, yes, it's difficult to live with the grandparents. but you know what? it's difficult to stay with anybody for a long period of time if they don't share the majority of your views. the other person doesn't have to be old for that to work.
3. finally, this non-adjusting attitude comes from having had "more freedom" in the first place. nobody likes change, specially if it's not conducive to their "well-being". if you've been brought up in an environment where you've had to adjust from the beginning, it's not so hard.
@ scooby
ReplyDelete1. thats exactly wot i said ... a rigid opinion is also unwanted ...
2. more often that not ... but the fact holds true more for grandparents
the longer u have been a certain way, the harder it is to change.
ReplyDeleteSometimes its tough even to live with parents, after hostel life that is....we're becoming such non-adjusting types...or maybe ppl always have been.